no peace/go run

Do you like when I write about my ex boyfriend? I hope you are not sick of it, because I have yet another Matt update for you. Sigh.

A few days ago I found out that he is moving "asap" to San Diego. No reason except, "I don't like it here." Just moving. He and I spoke, and he brought it up to me. Thus, I have to pretend to be surprised, which I am good at. And I try to ask questions, without sending my opinion over the phone which is: Stop running, you need to find peace. Whatever you're looking for, you won't find it by running. I am going out on a limb here to say this, but spirituality is and will only be the path to peace, at least for me. Human beings are divinely designed to need to search for some sort of purpose and or meaning to life. But back to he conversation, I really resisted a "I told you so moment." But it was very, very hard not to do so.

He talked about U of O/Eugene like it was Zion, and I tried reminding him before his move that he had hated being at Willamette in Salem because it was too close to his parents and too small of a town. This city is a lot bigger, more vibrant than Eugene, and he had established himself (thanks to me, for setting him all up, and I'll never do that again for a man thank you very much) with an apartment, school, job, and plan. And I was right.

His goal for San Diego is, and I quote, "just move down to there, and drink on the beach. Probably go back to school at some point." Ahh! How sad. I don't know very many people who leave undergrad then return. And, it is just so depressing to hear someone speak like that.

All I have to say is, thank my lucky stars Lord. If I had known there would be such a difference in my happiness he and I would of been over much sooner. And the more and more his life falls apart, I count my blessings that I don't have to be tied to it.

Comments

[shan]

yikes! Really, that is such a sad story -- his life is going to head nowhere. And drinking on the beach?? Like you said -- I'm sure it feels sooo good to know you're not tied to that.

[EK]

It's becoming increasingly clear that you really dodged a bullet!!

[heidi]

hopefully he figures out what he is looking for soon, before he completly screws up everything for himself

[Erin]

I am so glad for you that you and he are separated. I think it is very wise. It is very sad and I'm sure it's hard to hear his tales.

[Sara T.]

Isn't that an amazing feeling? I've had that experience with at least one ex and when I feel down and that I'm failing at life, remembering that is a HUGE pick-me-up.

[Lisa Brown]

That is very sad.

[Keya]

I know your glad you left that situation. I guess he needs to do a little soul searching to find himself. Hopefully everything works out for him.