You know, I usually do not have drama with people. Most of the time I lay pretty low, let things ride their course. Maybe due to naiveetivity I am very trusting, especially when it comes to my girlfriends. Still, because of many of my experiences I've learned to guard my heart. I think most people actually do this. You really shouldn't let everyone know your whole song and dance routine, or everything personal about you, until you know and trust them really well. For me that takes a few years. Yes, I'm open, but there are just a few things that are just too sacred. I'm also queen of boundaries, they are very important and abiding by them keeps uncomfortable situations at bay (usually).
So you're wondering what happened?
Well to be upfront my roommate who I assumed was my friend talked behind my back. She, her boyfriend Jimmy, and Matt got together during my initiation weekend. When Matt told me what happened a week later I was so upset. I called Lindsey to let her know that I knew. It's very interesting to me that people get nervous when their words air.
They didn't like my political beliefs and began asking Matt questions about why I believe what I do. He was pretty uncomfortable and answered many with "I can't answer that question for you." Jimmy, chose to take things to the next level and said, "how can she be conservative, most conservatives are racist." Wow, talk about ignorant.
On Saturday I came home and Lindsey came right over to me. She felt "bad" and wanted to talk. We did and it seemed like we had a good conversation, and in the end she had no "issues" with why I believe that I do.
Fast forward to Sunday night and Matt is doing yoga in my bedroom (lol) and Jimmy, Lindsey, and I are in the living room. Both of them wanted all of us to talk, but Matt and I weren't too sure about that... But I did think Jimmy should know that his comment was out of line. In his opinion conservatives are uneducated and I am as well (his words)!
Anyway things pretty much blew up from there. Lindsey starting pulling all these problems she has with my beliefs out of her butt (ironic because she never brought them up before) and Jimmy was extremely rude. I smartly told him that he needs to have more respect, especially for women. Lindsey's response was, "oh he just has an offensive personality." Wow, I would never want to justify my boyfriend for that.
Matt and I were pretty disgusted after all of this, just uncomfortable with them. So I wrote Lindsey an e-mail stating that I was no longer interested in cultivating a friendship at this time and that I had never met people so hypocritical and judgmental. I said I would always respect and be kind to her, but in return that she leave Matt and I alone.
I think my point has gotten across.
All in all is just really affirms how close minded people can be. Some folks need to get out. Literally. Travel, leave the safe "liberal" world of South Minneapolis and meet people of all different beliefs and views.
Matt and I were driving home from the grocery store last night and we rode right past Jimmy and Lindsey's high school. He said, "I cannot imagine living my whole life within a 5 mile radius and now [as an adult] living so close to my high school." Yep. Talk about sheltered.
As petty as it all sounds probably this has a lot to do with the sorority. You see, Lindsey was doing informal recruitment because she wanted to be in AOII with me. Because she did not have the minimum gpa (2.7) her bid was turned down. No one thinks it's ironic that all this drama happened over the weekend I was initiated.
